What movies and television get wrong about wills, trusts, probate—and what really happens after someone dies.
If your knowledge of estate planning comes from movies and television, you probably know exactly what happens after a wealthy relative dies.
The family gathers in a lawyer’s wood-paneled conference room. The lawyer opens an envelope and dramatically reads the will aloud. Someone gasps. Someone else discovers that they have been disinherited. A previously unknown heir appears. And before the closing credits, someone has inherited the mansion and everyone else is headed to court.
It makes for great television.
It just doesn’t look much like real life.
Here are nine estate planning myths Hollywood loves—and what actually happens.
Myth #1: Everyone Gathers for a Dramatic “Reading of the Will”
This may be Hollywood’s favorite estate planning scene, but formal will readings are largely a creation of movies and television.
There is generally no meeting where the attorney gathers the family together and dramatically announces who inherited what. Beneficiaries and other interested parties are typically notified through the probate process, while attorneys and executors generally communicate with family members individually by mail, email or telephone.
So, unfortunately, there is usually no dramatic moment when the lawyer announces:
“And to my nephew, who thought he was getting everything, I leave…nothing.”
Myth #2: Everyone Gets Their Inheritance Right Away
On television, the funeral takes place on Monday and someone seems to be living in the inherited mansion by Friday.
Real estates move much more slowly.
Before assets can be distributed, an executor may need to be formally appointed, assets must be identified and collected, debts and expenses addressed, tax issues resolved, property sold or transferred, and other administrative matters completed.
Even a relatively straightforward estate may take many months to administer. More complicated estates can take several years, particularly when there are tax issues, difficult-to-sell assets, disputes among beneficiaries or litigation.
Inheriting $5 million at the beginning of an episode does not necessarily mean you can spend it before the closing credits.
Myth #3: A Will Contest Is Solved in One Dramatic Courtroom Scene
Hollywood loves the surprise witness who walks into court with the document—or revelation—that solves everything.
Actual estate litigation rarely works that way.
Challenges involving undue influence, testamentary capacity, fraud or the validity of a will can involve document discovery, medical records, witness examinations, depositions, motion practice, negotiations and sometimes a trial.
And unlike television, there may not be one dramatic piece of evidence that neatly answers the question.
This is one reason careful estate planning matters. A well-designed plan, properly executed documents and a clear record of the client’s intentions can help reduce the likelihood of disputes later.
Myth #4: You Can Change Your Will Just by Telling Your Lawyer
A movie character calls his lawyer from the hospital:
“Take my son out of the will and leave everything to the housekeeper.”
Problem solved?
Not quite.
You can certainly ask your attorney to change your estate plan, but simply telling your lawyer what you want does not change your will.
In New York, a will must satisfy specific legal requirements. Generally, the person making the will must sign or acknowledge the will, declare it to be his or her will, and have at least two witnesses attest to its execution.
The same problem arises when someone writes a change on an existing will, crosses out a beneficiary or leaves handwritten instructions in a desk drawer. Those actions generally do not accomplish what the person intended.
When it comes to estate planning, intent is important—but proper execution is essential.
Myth #5: Probate Means Constant Trips to Court
The word “probate” may conjure up images of lawyers standing before a judge arguing over an estate.
Most probate proceedings are considerably less exciting.
Probate is a court process, but in an uncontested estate, much of the work takes place through documents filed with the Surrogate’s Court. Lawyers may never need to appear before a judge at all.
If everyone who needs to participate cooperates and there are no objections, the proceeding can often move forward without courtroom drama.
If someone contests the will, refuses to cooperate, cannot be located or raises another legal issue, however, the process can become substantially more complicated.
Myth #6: The Executor Takes Control the Moment Someone Dies
Being named as executor in a will does not mean that person instantly has authority over the estate.
The will generally must first be admitted to probate, and the Surrogate’s Court issues Letters Testamentary, which give the executor authority to act on behalf of the estate.
Depending on the circumstances and the court involved, obtaining those Letters can take weeks or months—and significantly longer if there are problems with the will, missing heirs, objections or other complications.
Meanwhile, there may be bills to pay, property to maintain and assets requiring attention.
This is one reason revocable trusts can be useful in the right estate plan: assets properly titled in a trust generally do not have to wait for the appointment of an executor before the successor trustee can act.
Myth #7: Trust Funds Are Only for the Super-Rich
Movies tend to introduce trusts with sentences like:
“She turns 25 next week and finally gets access to her $50 million trust fund.”
That gives people a very distorted idea of what trusts actually do.
Trusts are not simply places where extremely wealthy families park money for their children.
Depending on the type of trust and the client’s circumstances, a trust can be used to avoid probate, provide management of assets during incapacity, protect an inheritance for young or financially inexperienced beneficiaries, plan for estate taxes, protect assets for a beneficiary with special needs, or address long-term-care planning.
You do not need a private jet or a family compound to have a reason for creating a trust.
Myth #8: You Can Make an Oral Will on Your Deathbed
The dying movie character gathers the family around the bed and announces:
“I leave everything to Sarah.”
Dramatic? Yes.
A valid New York will? Almost certainly not.
New York recognizes oral—or “nuncupative”—wills only in extremely limited circumstances, primarily involving certain members of the armed forces during specified wartime or armed-conflict circumstances and mariners while at sea.
For almost everyone else, saying what you want—even in front of your entire family—is not a substitute for properly executed estate planning documents.
Myth #9: You Can Just Sign a New Will at the Last Minute
Technically, being close to death does not prevent someone from signing a will.
But Hollywood tends to leave out some very important details.
The legal formalities still apply. In New York, a traditional written will generally requires two attesting witnesses and compliance with the other statutory execution requirements.
The person signing must also have sufficient testamentary capacity and be acting voluntarily.
And if a brand-new will suddenly appears shortly before death—particularly one that dramatically changes a longstanding estate plan—the circumstances may invite scrutiny and potentially a challenge after death.
So the lesson is not that a deathbed will can never be valid.
It is that the hospital room is a terrible place to start your estate planning.
One Thing Hollywood Sometimes Gets Right
Every once in a while, Hollywood gets something surprisingly close to reality.
In the 1999 movie The Bachelor, a grandfather leaves his grandson a sizable inheritance—but with a catch. The grandson has to satisfy certain conditions, including getting married by a specified deadline, in order to inherit.
As strange as that premise sounds, conditional inheritances are real.
A properly drafted estate plan can place conditions on an inheritance or hold assets in trust until certain circumstances occur. For example, a trust might delay a beneficiary’s unrestricted access to an inheritance until a certain age or include provisions relating to education or other milestones.
But there are limits. Conditions that violate the law or public policy may not be enforceable, and conditions involving marriage or divorce require particularly careful drafting.
More importantly, sometimes the better estate planning approach is not to threaten a beneficiary with “Do this or you get nothing,” but to create a trust flexible enough to protect and support that beneficiary over time.
The Biggest Thing Hollywood Gets Wrong?
Estate planning should not be dramatic.
In fact, avoiding drama is largely the point.
A thoughtful estate plan identifies who should receive your assets, who should be responsible for administering them, what protections your beneficiaries may need, and how your affairs should be handled if you become incapacitated or when you die.
The best estate plans do not produce a great final scene for a movie.
They produce something much more valuable: a clear roadmap for your family at a time when they need one most.
Your estate plan may never make it to the big screen—but it should give your family a clear script to follow. Contact us to make sure yours does.
* Thank you to our summer intern, Gabriella Sadaghati, for her contributions to this article!